Caregiving and Reminiscing: Bringing out Your Inner Child

crayon-545023_1280From a spiritual point of view, there is nothing better than getting in touch with your inner child. But, what exactly does that mean – does it mean to take your shoes off and jump in a puddle? Or, does it mean to lick the spoon from the chocolate cake batter, dance in the rain or play in the mud? Better yet, how about coloring outside the lines for a change with your fave crayons – mine are sky blue and lemon yellow – what are yours? Read More

Healed by the Harmonica

It was September 2012 when I had this experience. For some reason I will never be able to explain to myself, I was having one of my down days. No matter what I did, it always felt that everyone did it better, more importantly, and with such ease. That is until visiting Mr. D.R.

I had been working with elders for my local town and while visiting one of my clients, Mr. D.R. this day, he began telling me of his achievements in his 86 years on this planet we call earth. He knew how to sing, play musical instruments, and paint beautiful paintings. Upon sharing my newfound desire to learn how to play the harmonica (it is supposed to be good for asthma sufferers like me) and confessing that I had actually bought a small one, Mr. D.R. confessed that he was quite good at playing the harmonica himself.

Now the only thing left to do was to promise him that not only would I learn how to play, but also once having done so, I would return to play him a song. He one-upped me though. He went to his car, grabbed his harmonica, and played a beautiful Mexican song for me.


He was smiling; however, my smile was bigger. He brought joy to my dreary soul by reminding me that no matter who does what, we all bring something different to the table and, at the end of the day, it does not matter what we do as long as it brings a smile to someone else’s face!angel-565543_1280

Returning to the office this day to hand in my paperwork, I recanted this story to my director. She jumped for joy and she, too, had a smile on her face – only not because of the story, but because she had been trying to get Mr. D.R. to come into the center for social time. He was still so saddened by his wife’s diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and was lost without her. The center has a harmonica club, of all things, and the director never knew that Mr. D.R. played. She called him up and invited him to join!

Music and smiles all around!


Calling upon Your Highest Caregiver Self

Many of us have heard the expression, “What would Jesus do?” or “what would love do?” In many times of stress, it is easy to instantly go into, “What would stress do?” only to feel guilty about it later. Reacting from an internal point of stress rather than an internal point of view of “what would my higher self do?” is an easy trap under which to fall.

Sometimes it is easier to react than to take action. Sometimes there is no apparent action to take, and that is when it is time to stop, drop, and Read More

How Caregivers can Indulge in Self-Care

hands-718561_1280As a caregiver of aging parents, I mistakenly thought that I had to put everyone else’s needs above and before my own. How then, could I truly be a generously giving caregiver when I was not first meeting my own needs? Do you notice something about this verse? It states to love thy neighbor as thyself. For so many years, I had misinterpreted that until God put something inside my head and inside my heart. It says to love your neighbor “as” thyself, not to love your neighbor before or better than yourself! It may seem that loving your neighbor is the first instruction; however, it is in alignment with self-love. Read More

It’s not about Me: The Most Beneficial Mantra You Can Use


affirmationsYou may have a daily mantra for abundance, love, luck or success. You may even practice affirmations such as I am loved and wholly supported on a daily basis. If you really want to turn your world and the world of others inside out and upside down, try this one on for size – It’s not about me.

When you are caring for an aging parent or any aging person, for that matter, it is important to remember not to take things personally. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with siblings, the medical community, and an elder’s family members. Read More

Living from Your Spirit

We have all heard how the Holy Spirit lives and dwells inside us. Perhaps we are equally well-versed in Bible scripture pertaining to the subject of the Holy Spirit indwelling inside us. However, are we really living from our spirit in today’s world?

Jesus Speaks of the Gift of the Holy Spirit

16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate, who will never leave you. 17 He is the Holy Spirit, who leads in all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you. (John 14:16-17, New Living Translation).

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Living with My Mother: The Venn Diagram

Living with my mother is like a human Venn diagram. I get to see the parts and pieces of myself, my mother, and the similarities and differences in between.venn-diagram-41217_1280

Now, the question is posed – should one change the similar parts and pieces in themselves that are viewed as detrimental in their parents or would that be like going against the grain, like cutting a roast in the wrong direction?

I see the caregiver my mother has always been, and see the caregiver I’ve become. The similarities in personality and in life choices are so carbon copied, it’s almost dauntingly scary. It’s almost like being a stalker to my mother’s life in having modeled her life; action by action. Read More

Reaching Out: The Benefits to Both the Giver and the Receiver

hand-534867_1280If you are a caregiver, especially to an aging parent or elder, you will appreciate the value you offer when reaching out for help. Yes, that’s right – when “reaching out” for help.

Many times, we fall under the misguided belief that part of being a true Christian means always being strong in our lives. If we are strong in all things at all times, then we would not need Christ in our lives, nor would we need others. Read More

Stop Searching and Step into Being: The Fabulous Caregiver that you are

Some authentic keys to unlocking your life’s purposemagnifying glass

For years, I thought about what my purpose in life was, and I am both embarrassed and proud to admit that I explored it at length. Embarrassed a bit because I took so long to figure it out, and proud that I put that much time and effort into it at the same time.

One key to unlocking your life’s purpose has nothing much to do with you. If you step away from your outside self, you will come to recognize that you did not design yourself. You were created a certain way, given a set of parents with some life experiences along the way. You were designed by the Divine. Read More