4 Things to Remember this Memorial Day

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4 Things to Remember this Memorial Day

 

For many people, Memorial Day weekend is the “unofficial” start of summer. There will be road trips, golf outings, beach walks and barbeques. Some will even take advantage of those big Memorial Day sales and buy or lease a new car. There are parades and pool openings alike.

However, Memorial Day, as we all know is so much more than that. It’s a time when we take a few moments to remember our loved ones and those who have served us and our great country in the past.

Many, as we know, have lost their lives and many have survived but still carry within their hearts the memories of service past. Here are some things to remember this Memorial Day weekend.

Remember the Fallen Heroes and Angels

Of course, first and foremost, it’s important to remember those who gave their lives in sacrifice for us. Think for a moment about those men and women who, without a second thought, put their lives on the line so we could have ours.

We get to go to those barbeques, open those pools, and enjoy God’s gracious gift of the ocean views and sandy beaches where, for some, were very similar grounds to which they fought for and upon on our behalf.

Remember Those Left Behind

While you are remembering, take a moment to honor those who were left behind. Our heroes had families; they had mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, children and friends that loved them dearly.

Many of those people don’t have their loved ones with them this Memorial Day. Take a moment to hold their hearts in your hand this Memorial Day. Imagine those mothers who don’t get to hold their sons any longer, say a prayer of peace for them and hold them in your heart space as you remember them this Memorial Day weekend.

Remember to be Grateful

Whether you’re barbequing, hosting your pool opening or playing a round of golf with your dad, take a moment to be grateful for these moments. It’s so easy to focus on and highlight what goes wrong in life, what doesn’t work or what we don’t have.

Be intentional this weekend and take time to be one hundred percent present to the people you are with. Life changes and it changes more quickly than we understand. Look at the expression on your loved one’s faces, listen to the inflection of their voices, the nuances of their personalities, and be present in the moment. Be grateful.

Remember to Pray

Last, but never least, remember to pray this Memorial Day weekend. Pray for those lost, pray for the wives, fathers, and mothers who won’t get to see their loved ones until after eternity here on earth is done.

And, just as important, pray for the peace of the world to come.

Amen and so be it.

Happy Memorial Day

 

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The Compassion Switch: Turning Down the Dial

 

 

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Have you ever asked yourself how you got into the position of caregiver in the first place? If you’re a family caregiver, it’s probably come to your mind, out of all your siblings how did you end up being the family caregiver? If you’re a caregiver, chances are you are compassion itself, and that’s why this situation chose you.

I’ve come to learn I need to install a switch – I call it my compassion switch. I feel so deeply into this world and have so much compassion that some days it’s painful; it’s even painful to wake up in the morning; I don’t want to face the world and all its pain because I want so badly to heal it all.

That’s when the bell goes off and I remember, it’s not my job. If you’re like me, you may have felt you don’t belong here or you feel out of place somehow. You’re not alone in this thinking, but the opposite is true. You do belong here, you are a contribution and you make a difference.

As a sensitive soul, it’s important to install a compassion switch; one where you get to turn the dial up when necessary and one where you get to turn it down to protect your sensitive soul.  If we go through life wanting to save, heal, and help everyone, then we, ourselves will burn out. Caregiver burnout is a real thing. We give too much and wind up empty and depleted.

If a cup is empty, there’s nothing left to drink from. Take time to nurture yourself, fill up your own cup; don’t wait around for somebody else to do it. Start noticing when you’re over-giving – especially where it’s not really necessary. Start to turn the dial down a bit; save some energy for yourself. It’s okay.

It takes some practice, but once you get used to it, you’ll soon begin to feel a spring in your step because you have saved some of that delicious, marvelous and compassionate energy for the most important person in the caregiving role – you!

Take a look in the mirror today; right here and right now and tell yourself, “I am an inspired caregiver. I deserve loving-tender care too.” Now, go do something just for you whether it’s a piece of chocolate all to yourself or some fresh air and sunshine. You take care of you so you can take better care of them.